Strategy Two: Open Your Heart and Increase Your Bandwidth

by Connie DeLaVergne on June 3, 2010

Reciprocity, helpfulness, loving others or opening your heart is a concept that‘s getting a lot of attention lately, especially in the blogosphere. Lots of people are talking about moving from a me, me, me mentality to a WE perspective which requires a shift in thinking and vigilance to maintain it.

A WE perspective is not just about putting the needs of the collective ahead of your own but FEELING or at least believing that that’s the right thing to do for evolution as a person, species, culture, nation, planet.

Let’s be honest, old patterns are difficult to overcome and if you were launched into Life poorly or if you are in the middle of a crisis, it will be challenging to overcome your desire to blame, deny or hide out. The fact is, the more negativity you see in your life the more you need to open your heart. There’s a direct correlation.

So how do you do it? How do you get out of your small, personal space to think about other people and open your heart? There’s only one way and it’s through practice.

It’s about making a different choice every time you get the opportunity and seeing these opportunities as gifts from the Universe and not a hurdle or roadblock that prevents you from getting what you want. (If you feel compelled to blame something be wary. It probably means you need to ratchet the opening in your heart a little wider.)

Every challenge becomes a chance to choose rightly–to pick love over hate, truth over lies, generosity over greed, responsibility over blame. It’s a chance to be honest with yourself and to apologize if you make a mistake because you probably will, especially in the beginning. Do not let that stop you!

Keep trying because every time you make a right choice your heart knows it. It’s like watering a garden—your heart becomes fuller or more loving each time you make the right choice.  Eventually, I understand, it becomes second nature, an everyday occurrence and there is peace.

Love heals is not a cliché.

It’s the invigorating Truth—another way of saying Open Your Heart and the rewards for doing so are great—for everybody! The happier and kinder you are to others, the happier and more alive you will feel.

Love will increase your bandwidth and make life a joyful, expansive adventure. But only you can open your heart. Start today. The planet needs you.

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Alison Marks June 5, 2010 at 1:00 pm

Hi Connie – This is really beautiful, and exactly where I am on my own personal journey. After a while in this life, if you’re awake, it’s really impossible to ignore that we ARE the people and the world around us, and that acting only in what we think is in our own best interests isn’t really our best interests if others aren’t considered, too. It’s hard to write about it eloquently – you did a good job!


Connie DeLaVergne June 6, 2010 at 8:15 am

The more I learn the more I see we are all ONE. A teacher of mine says “responsibility is what people try hardest to avoid.” But it’s the most important part of the equation if you’re seeking peace, happiness, and LASTING CHANGE, all of which requires awareness and persistence, VIGILANCE. I worry when people insinuate that reaching enlightenment is easy because it doesn’t come from reading a book or two. It takes a lot of practice, hard work and deep, often painful honesty–but it is SO worth the price, that LOVE.

Thank you, Alison, for your kind words. It’s nice to get positive feedback and see support in black and white. I appreciate the time you took to say so.

In light and ever-growing awareness,


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