Strategy One: Embrace Yourself and Increase Your Bandwidth

by Connie DeLaVergne on May 28, 2010

Middle age is officially defined as that time between young adulthood and old age, 35 to 65. Thanks largely to an increased life expectancy these boundaries have been stretched. In 2011 3.5 million Americans will turn 65-years-old. They will be the first wave of Baby Boomers to exit their middle years. Though I hate to be the one to break it to you, people from Generation X are getting older too. They are the ones born between 1964 and 1976.  In 2011 all of Generation X becomes middle aged.

Everyone born in 1970 will turn 40 this year!

That is a lot of people in their middle and older years. So as a culture why are we so obsessed with beauty, brawn and youth?

In my opinion I don’t think that we are, not all of us anyway. I think there are huge numbers of people (in every generation) who are more interested in personal insight and growth. We do not care about Botox injections or maintaining the illusion of youth.  We enjoy aging gracefully and are not afraid of growing up. We recognize our middle years as a time to develop new dimensions of ourselves and it is exciting and rejuvenating! We learn the value of being healthy physically, emotionally, spiritually and financially. Healthy is sexy because . . .

Health breeds happiness, contentment and loving relationships that last.

But it demands a willingness to grow up, otherwise we live in a perpetual state of midlife crisis and our energy bandwidth is taxed leading eventually to poor health and bad relationships. The time is now to truly embrace the middle years.

“The task of midlife is not to look into the light, but to bring light into the darkness,” ~Carl Jung, Psychoanalyst

Much is owed to the people who have come before us, who have shown us the way and Baby Boomers have been trailblazers on many important issues not the least of which is how to gracefully age. Lots of them are doing it well and all you have to do is study them. They are not invisible.

Look for Boomers who are aging gracefully. They are NOT the ones exercising compulsively with freakishly toned bodies and getting plastic surgery. They are the ones who have put balance into their lives and care more about helping other people than climbing to the top of a heap. Healthy people take responsibility for their overall fitness in every area of their lives. They don’t try to be something that they’re not. Healthy Boomers are happy, creative individuals with open hearts who embrace aging, wisdom, experience and relationships. Study how they do it—how they express their feelings to the people they love, how they work, what they do in their free time. Listen to their words, what they say to their children, parents and bosses and what they think is funny. Learn from the people who stand in line in front of you. They can be excellent teachers.

That is the first strategy to feeling stronger and increasing your personal bandwidth so you can operate at capacity through every stage of your life. If you can accept, appreciate and embrace the aging in others you will be able to accept it in yourself and you will be stronger and happier because of it.

Embrace the middle years! Embrace each and every year. It’s all good.

(Look for Strategy Two in an upcoming post. It will be coming soon!)

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Colette Kenney June 1, 2010 at 9:38 am

Hi Connie,

This is such a fantastic and timely post! I have been working with many clients lately who are over 40 and who have been so down on themselves for it. Believing they are unattractive and “washed-up” (their words not mine!!)

Yesterday I came across a post by Sue Vittner at in which she provided a 40 day prosperity program, which is a mediation program to attract prosperity in your life.

This morning I decided I would put up a video about Sue’s program and invite others to join me in creating prosperity and abundance in their love life. If you want to check it out you can find it here:

Thanks again Connie for a great and very timely post!


Connie DeLaVergne June 1, 2010 at 10:25 am

It’s true Colette, it’s difficult to feel good about aging in a youth-obsessed culture but fear or a bad attitude about the inevitable needs to be transcended if you want to be happy and at peace. Self-care and acceptance are important first steps toward embracing what you cannot change–like the passage of time.

There are benefits to getting older and many people do it well by aging gracefully–and if that’s the focus, that’s what gets discovered.

Thanks for stopping by and starting a conversation, Colette! I will check out your site and the prosperity video you posted.


Teresa Ocasio June 3, 2010 at 8:07 am

This is a great article Connie. I am 40 this year but feel the youngest ever because I am happy and embracing all of me. My life is really good. When we stop listening to the media and the ideas of others, we can be ourselves with acceptance and grace. All it takes is realizing we are all making it all up as we go anyway. I would rather make it feel light and joyful. In the word Enlightenment look at what is in the middle..LIGHT!

.-= Teresa Ocasio´s last blog ..How Did This Dog Raise $10,000? =-.


Connie DeLaVergne June 3, 2010 at 10:37 am

Well said Teresa, I couldn’t agree more.

It’s not only empowering to write the story you want to live but it can make each day an exhilarating ride! All it takes is the courage to step out of group-think, which is easier to say than do, especially when facing a challenge but Life’s a journey and it’s all of great value if you choose to look at it that way.

Thanks for the compliment on this article and for taking the time to comment. I LOVE COMMENTS!



HGC Diet June 21, 2010 at 4:06 pm

That is very helpful. It presented me a number of ideas and I’ll be placing them on my blog soon. I’m bookmarking your website and I’ll be back. Thank you again!


Connie DeLaVergne June 22, 2010 at 7:30 pm

Thanks for stopping by and I’m glad I could be of assistance. Let me know if I can be of service again. I’m here to help.



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